If we live in universe of infinite possibilities, why aren’t we all successful?

Why aren’t we all where we all where we want to be in life? We’re probably the most self-focused generation in creation. Here are 5 reasons why you could be stuck at dreaming and not doing:

1. You’re afraid that it will never happen for you.

I know someone who’d love to be an advertising model but she hasn’t done anything to pursue it. She’s beautiful, and while modeling has less to do with beauty and more to with confidence, her looks would certainly be an advantage. When I’d asked why she doesn’t pursue modeling, she said that it was just a dream. And how would you turn a dream into an experience if you aren’t doing anything? Most of the time, we’re afraid that we’ll be rejected so we don’t bother trying.

2. You can’t actually picture yourself at your goal.

If you’ve set a goal that you’re going to reach one day, forget it. A dream can only be realized if you work towards it and set a specific deadline. Know when, where, and how you’ll get what you want, by when. The chances of success after your first attempt is one in a million, so you can almost bet that you’ll exceed your deadline anyway, but it’s a great guideline.

3. You just don’t have the patience…

To wait, to take orders, to listen to rejection after rejection. Technology is rapidly changing society. You’ve barely torn the plastic from a new gadget, and already new model is being manufactured. A lot more can happen in five minutes, than it could 10 years ago. And we’ve become so accustomed to having things happen quickly, that we forget that our future can’t be downloaded within mere minutes. We forget that anything with having takes a lot of effort and pressure like cutting diamonds.

4. Reaching the top often means loneliness.

There is a distinct difference between being alone and being lonely. The former means being by yourself, and the latter means having only yourself. None of us want to be lonely. After all, what would the the value of your success if you didn’t have anyone to share it with? I’ve seen people aggressively beat challenges and perform at the height of their potential. And I’ve also noticed that the closer they’ve come to reaching their goals, the harder they’ve had to work and sacrifice social interactions. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with people who share similar interests as you.

When you surround yourself with like-minded people, you allow yourself to learn, teach, and be supportive, but more importantly, accompanied down the road to your goal.

5. Because what are you supposed to do afterwards…

We all have a purpose in life and our goals guide us to it. Establish a reason for your goal and then you’ll know where to, after you’ve achieved it. Reaching your dream doesn’t mean the end of your life and purpose, it simply opens up a door for your to explore new things. From one of the best fables of all time, The Alchemist, “wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”. 

Do you have a suggestion to add to the list? I’d love to hear from you. Post a comment in the space below, or email me directly to robyn@bewhole.co.za

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Author: Robyn

2 Comments

  1. Janet Sunderland February 22, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    Great post, Robyn. And you’re right: bottom line, fear. Fear of rejection, fear we won’t make it, fear we ……. fill in the blank.
    And actually, fear is real in many ways, a left over from when we were chased by lions, tigers, and bears. I had to train myself by telling myself I wouldn’t die. THAT took time. Now it’s just the inching along part!! You’re very wise, young dreamer.

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    1. Robyn - Site Author February 23, 2015 at 8:30 pm

      Thank you so much Janet. It’s funny how easily fear can influence your decisions, even things that you know you can do or have set out to do well in advance. My biggest fear right now is missing out – on moments with family, friends, and events. But I want to do other things that clash, like travel and exploring a new career venture. I am learning balance.

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