One of this week’s Daily Post topics discussed teachers and how they’d influenced our lives, whether good or bad.

I’d experienced different methods of learning from my teachers throughout the years and favoured many, but one in particular that I will never forget, was my high school Science teacher, Mr Moosa.

Moving often meant changing schools and by the time I’d graduated from High School, I’d been to my fifth school. This quickly taught me adaptability and I was lucky enough to meet some people whom I still converse with to this day.

After I’d left high school, I never saw Mr Moosa again. I have no idea how he is doing (he must have retired), but I know that I will never forget the look on his face when spoke about love. It was as if he’d had a sour taste in his mouth, the way he’d wrinkle his nose after saying:

Love is a chemical imbalance between two fools. It can be learned and unlearned.

My classmates and I would dismiss it as a dry Chemistry joke. He was exceptionally wise but not very entertaining. One time I’d dosed off during a lesson and then burst into tears as he caught me. I was horrified that I may have offended him by dosing off and that brought on my wimpy tears.

He strongly believed that love could be destructive and that self discipline should be maintained above all relationships. I forget how we’d get into a debate but the entire class (of 46) would be involved.

The argument was that one partner will always love the other more, and that relationships thrive on a matter of understanding rather than love only. It’s easy to love someone whom you admire based on their principles but difficult to maintain a relationship based on feelings only. Feelings are temporary while principles are constant – feelings are one-sided and frequently irrational. You are better off loving someone with good principles than you are loving someone whom you only have ‘feelings’ for. Make sense?

I’d recently heard Eric Thomas recite a bible verse which read, “find a man who is diligent in his work, and he shall stand before kings and not obscure men (Prov 22:29). This would justify Mr Moosa’s way of thinking.

I’d love to hear from you. Do you think that this is a useful approach to love? Post a comment in the space below or send me an email to robyn@bewhole.co.za

I’m having so much fun solo dating right now; a friend whom I hadn’t seen in about two years recently commented on how much I’ve changed. Read 10 things you learn from solo dating for more info on solo dating.

Photo by Kirsten Holman

Author: Robyn

4 Comments

  1. Luvuyo February 3, 2015 at 8:17 am

    I’m with you on this one Rob ,back then we laughed at it and never quite grasped it and made sense of it because he was just that type of guy ,lol but honestly speaking ,now that I’ve grown ,matured and experienced a lot of things (in love) I’m a 100 % behind this approach.

    I read those “10 things You Learn From Solo Dating” and everyone has to do that at some point in their lives ,why ? Throughout our lives we seldom get lost in the idea of pleasing and satisfying others and forget completely about ourselves ,so I say “Solo Dating For The Whole Nation”

    Reply
    1. Robyn - Site Author February 3, 2015 at 6:52 pm

      Hey Luvuyo! It’s funny how things work out. How the people you thought would be around forever, fade quickly, and how you learn to admire others who were always there in the distance. I would never have guessed that this is how my life would turn out, especially with regards to relationships and I’m sure that you would agree. Viva solo dating haha.

      Reply
  2. Tarryn February 3, 2015 at 12:19 pm

    So true! And getting that balance isn’t always as “perfect” as people would paint it.

    I’m glad that I spent 4 – 5 years solo dating, and first being 100% ME, before allowing myself to be shared, mixed and matched šŸ™‚

    Reply
    1. Robyn - Site Author February 3, 2015 at 6:41 pm

      Hahaha! I love the sound of that “shared, mixed and matched” bit. Thank you so much for Sharing Tarryn. I’ll be heading to your blog for dating tips immediately after my solo phase has passed šŸ˜€

      Reply

Drop your comment here: