It’s okay to not feel happy all the time

Can I get an Amen?

Seriously – no one is happy during every single moment of their life. If you’re reading this at a time when you’re feeling a little forlorn, cut yourself some slack. You’re not the only one, and you certainly won’t be the last.

If you’re in a genuinely joyful mood right now, spread it like wildfire, girl – stop what you’re doing after reading this post and go do something good for someone – like giving a compliment.

I’m a happy girl. Can you tell? I love laughing, getting to know new people, and working towards developing myself. My life is not perfect – as I progress towards reaching my goals, I’m continuously confronted with difficult decisions, some hurtful situations, and distractions. No one’s life is perfect.

Social media has us admiring other people’s filtered happy moments

There are 123 hashtag-unhappy-right-now posts on Instagram, as opposed to the 39 863 hashtag-happy posts on Instagram. People don’t want you to know when they’re unhappy because unhappy people are unpopular. I do it too. Naturally, I don’t post selfies of me crying (because that would be weird); and my first instinct, when something goes wrong is not, “let me quickly post a status about how badly this is going”… what good would that do? The benefits of social media are immense. It’s never been easier to connect to people from all over the world, but in the same breath, it’s quite overwhelming when you consider how much information you are consuming about other people when you are constantly online. How much time do you take to focus on yourself?

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Unhappy feelings are all learning curves

It’s healthy to feel sad sometimes – unhappy feelings help you realize what’s not working in your life and what you require to be happy.  Robin Sharma, a renowned personal development guru blew me away with this quote on the habits of leaders:

“The only people who don’t have problems are dead…I am who I am today because of my most difficult experiences; I wouldn’t give them up for anything. The things that have brought me the gravest pain, are actually the things that have taught me understanding, passion, wisdom, kindness, and forgiveness…I believe problems are gifts and they come to us to help us grow…  I don’t believe that the goal in life should be to avoid problems…  I believe that the goal of a leader, an elite performer, the goal of a highly evolved human being is to manage their problems, and to realize that it’s just a part of life – to resist them is to resist life.”

Profound, isn’t it? We’re all leaders if you think about it. Even extreme introverts and those prone to social anxiety are leaders – managing their own lives. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that flow through you, you don’t need to react to them but be aware of them, and allow your emotions to guide you to your true state of happiness.

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Author: Robyn