Rituals of successful women

Motivational speakers always highlight the importance of having a mentor who can guide you on a prosperous path. Many of them stress that it’s important to surround yourself with not only like-minded people, but people who have been successful in things that you are interested in pursuing.

In this day and age – the information age, we’re showered with opportunity. The problem is that sometimes we just don’t know how to harness or make use of the opportunities around us. And this is why it’s important that we take guidance from people ‘who’ve been there’ – ‘the Greats’. I’ve recently taken up kickboxing for fitness purposes and my coach is a professional kickboxing champion. He doesn’t train me to lose weight or tone; he trains me to be a champion. Once I listen intently to his instructions, I can almost perfect a technique the same way he does, and I’m certain that it’s just a matter of time and perseverance that my physique appears just as lean as his does – as long as I follow his guidelines.

Speaking of which, all too often, we see someone whom we think is absolutely amazing and then aspire for a similar lifestyle. But it’s important to understand that as much as you aspire for a lifestyle, no matter how hard you work, you will never have or experience exactly the same things as the person you admire. I saw an Instagram picture message the other day that read, “no one is you, and that is your power”. Truer words have never been spoken. You have a unique flair to bring to anything that you set out to do, and that is having a vision that no one else can comprehend in the same way. If you want to be successful, find a mentor to guide you but know that you have your own path to follow; you can never be or have another person’s life.

With that said, here is a list of 10 things that all successful women have in common, with quotes by prestigious women across the globe on how they have managed to become who they are:

  1. They take full responsibility for their actions
    “One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes… and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
  1. They don’t skimp on ‘me time’
    If we cannot disconnect, we cannot lead. Creating the culture of burnout is opposite to creating a culture of sustainable creativity. This is something that needs to be taught in business schools. This mentality needs to be introduced as a leadership and performance-enhancing tool.” — Arianna Huffington
  1. They focus on improving more than just their own lives
    “The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.” — Iyanla Vanzant

4. They’re ‘Doers’
“I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” — Estée Lauder

  1. They don’t waste time focusing on their flaws
    “We are not interested in the possibilities of defeat; they do not exist.” — Queen Victoria, Former Queen of the United Kingdom
  1. They maintain a positive outlook on life
    “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” — Helen Keller
  1. They learn from their mistakes
    “My best successes came on the heels of failures.” — Barbara Corcoran
  1. They surround themselves with like-minded people
    “Surround yourself with a trusted and loyal team. It makes all the difference.” — Alison Pincus
  1. They live with purpose
    “We’re here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark.” — Whoopi Goldberg
  1. They dress well
    “Many women live like it’s a dress rehearsal. Ladies, the curtain is up and you’re on.” — Mikki Taylor

Do you have any points to add to the list or a quote you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you. Please post a comment in the section below.

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Author: Robyn