You’re not lazy. This is really what’s happening to you…
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You’re not making your goal a priority.
Last year, I was really devoted to my goals. I was going to do so many things. One of my friends continually commends me for being ‘the’ girl who always does what she says. And I am. But I also get easily distracted. Somehow between starting a new job, falling in love, going natural, and taking on a new fitness regimen, my biggest goal – developing my career as a writer and consistently publishing blog posts here, have been on the back burner.
I write (for work) every day but one big blogging goal in particular that I’ve wanted to achieve has been to complete Sarah Arrow’s 30-day blog challenge. I’d published several posts dedicated to the challenge but never actually completed the challenge. Then I would try to rid myself of guilt with reasoning like having to narrow down my niche first or not wanting to spam my subscribers with too many posts. What the hell? I love blogging, and it comes easily. Why is it so difficult for me to complete this damn challenge? Everything else, and I really mean everything, took precedence over this goal. I began blogging as a pastime – there was never a rush or urgency for me to get a post out, and because I am the sole person in control here, every day I figured, I can just publish my next post tomorrow.
It took one huge tiff and a headache from crying to realize that I can do every single thing that I want to do as long as I know what it is and when I want to do it. I always knew this. But sometimes we forget. Sometimes we need something bad to happen to wake us up, to challenge us – to remind us not to take our eyes off our prize. We are our only hope for a fulfilling life, what we do with our time determines everything.
And here’s another thing, there’s no such thing as a lazy person. According to Laura D. Miller, a graduate of the Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Program at the William Alanson White Institute, laziness is a myth. Miller describes laziness as an ‘overused criticism’ in an article published by Psychology Today. She writes that laziness is simply a character judgment that does nothing to help us understand why someone doesn’t exert the effort to do what they want to do, or are expected to do.
You’ll always be interested in what’s important to you, and the things that are less important, not so much. You’re not lazy, you just have other priorities.
I’m starting the blog challenge again and I’ve already compiled a list of posts that I want to write for the next 31 days. This is something I really want to do now. What do you want to do?
I’ve been listening to several motivational speakers who all say the same things when it comes to reaching a goal. I guess they must be true; take a look at the 5 tips to achieving any goal, below:
1. Decide what it is you want to do and go for it
In Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon offers essential tips on how to become wealthy – not only material riches but wealth in health, happiness, and relationships. He stresses a definiteness of purpose, which is having a clear indication of what you want to achieve. It’s not enough to say that you want to be happy for example – you need to consider what makes you happy and gravitate towards a clear vision of the exact thing.
2. Find a goal big enough that will satisfy you
The other day while listening to Shoot for the Moon by Les Brown, he said, the reason why some people aren’t successful is not that they aim too high, it’s because they aim too low and miss. Your goal must be big enough to satisfy you or challenge you otherwise you will get bored and lose motivation.
3. Keep yourself motivated
Read all there is to know about your goal. Become a master at each task by doing your research, practice or whatever it takes to ensure that you are constantly moving a step closer to your goal. I listen to a motivational clip every morning (even on weekends – your mind doesn’t have off days). While I hadn’t prioritized completing the blogging challenge, constantly motivating myself through words that I read, hear and write, I have achieved other things.
4. Surround yourself with people who share the same interests
As a point of reference in terms of philosophy rather than religion, the Bible, centuries old best seller, reads in Proverbs 13:20: “he that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed”. Basically, you become the company you keep.
5. Abandon all excuses for backing out
When you have the option to quit, it’s always easier to quit. You must clear all paths for turning back. It’s amazing how resourceful people can be when they don’t have a choice but to keep going. I’m reminded of a story I’d heard about a captain who ventured to the New World (America) by ship in 1915, intending to conquer an empire with just over 600 men. When they arrived, the captain instructed his men to burn their ships – they were either going to die while trying to conquer the empire or succeed, but there would be no turning back. Can you guess what happened? Exactly, they succeeded.
What’s serving as your safety net? Is it helping you or hindering growth?Burn your ships now. Chat to me in the comment section below or connect with me on Instagram,Twitter, or Facebook. I’d love to hear from you.