Posts tagged inspiration

5 reasons why you may not reach your goals.

If we live in universe of infinite possibilities, why aren’t we all successful?

Why aren’t we all where we all where we want to be in life? We’re probably the most self-focused generation in creation. Here are 5 reasons why you could be stuck at dreaming and not doing:

1. You’re afraid that it will never happen for you.

I know someone who’d love to be an advertising model but she hasn’t done anything to pursue it. She’s beautiful, and while modeling has less to do with beauty and more to with confidence, her looks would certainly be an advantage. When I’d asked why she doesn’t pursue modeling, she said that it was just a dream. And how would you turn a dream into an experience if you aren’t doing anything? Most of the time, we’re afraid that we’ll be rejected so we don’t bother trying.

2. You can’t actually picture yourself at your goal.

If you’ve set a goal that you’re going to reach one day, forget it. A dream can only be realized if you work towards it and set a specific deadline. Know when, where, and how you’ll get what you want, by when. The chances of success after your first attempt is one in a million, so you can almost bet that you’ll exceed your deadline anyway, but it’s a great guideline.

3. You just don’t have the patience…

To wait, to take orders, to listen to rejection after rejection. Technology is rapidly changing society. You’ve barely torn the plastic from a new gadget, and already new model is being manufactured. A lot more can happen in five minutes, than it could 10 years ago. And we’ve become so accustomed to having things happen quickly, that we forget that our future can’t be downloaded within mere minutes. We forget that anything with having takes a lot of effort and pressure like cutting diamonds.

4. Reaching the top often means loneliness.

There is a distinct difference between being alone and being lonely. The former means being by yourself, and the latter means having only yourself. None of us want to be lonely. After all, what would the the value of your success if you didn’t have anyone to share it with? I’ve seen people aggressively beat challenges and perform at the height of their potential. And I’ve also noticed that the closer they’ve come to reaching their goals, the harder they’ve had to work and sacrifice social interactions. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with people who share similar interests as you.

When you surround yourself with like-minded people, you allow yourself to learn, teach, and be supportive, but more importantly, accompanied down the road to your goal.

5. Because what are you supposed to do afterwards…

We all have a purpose in life and our goals guide us to it. Establish a reason for your goal and then you’ll know where to, after you’ve achieved it. Reaching your dream doesn’t mean the end of your life and purpose, it simply opens up a door for your to explore new things. From one of the best fables of all time, The Alchemist, “wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”. 

Do you have a suggestion to add to the list? I’d love to hear from you. Post a comment in the space below, or email me directly to robyn@bewhole.co.za

Image source: Ryan McGuire/Gratisography

5 tips on how to be successful from Notorious B.I.G

Heinrich Heine once said that where words leave off, music begins. So true.

Words are just easier to remember when they have a ring to it; it’s more intense.This is why music is such a powerful tool in society. Add a hot beat to a message, and you can influence a nation with your beliefs.

I listen to a wide genre of music but mostly to Hip Hop. To me, Hip Hop is just an extension of poetry – with a *sick beat. And I’ve found myself tuned into some songs, after discovering subliminal material that can actually be helpful. Take rapper, Notorious B.I.G (also known as Biggie) for example. Here’s a rapper who came from a poverty stricken environment and flourished so greatly that his music is still being played, decades after his passing.

Biggie thrived because he created music from his experiences, not from made-up stories. He used the tools he had and made due with what he had, in order to succeed.

But before the hype about the laws of attraction went viral in 2002 (with the help of Rhonda Byrne’s, The Secret), Biggie was applying the same principles to his life and rapping about it. He released a song called Juicy, off the album Ready To Die, which is basically a summary of how he went from rags to riches. He died shortly after the release of the album.

In this song (Juicy), Biggie highlights five key tools for reaching success. This confirms the laws of attraction – a scientific theory suggesting that you attract whatever happens to you in life. Whatever thoughts you send out, will be returned to you by the universe.

Check out the 5 steps to success in Biggie’s Juicy lyrics:

1. Visualise what you want and imagine that you already have it.

It was all a dream

2. Study everything about your desire and practise consistently.

I used to read Word Up magazine
Salt’n’Pepa and Heavy D up in the limousine
Hangin’ pictures on my wall
Every Saturday Rap Attack, Mr Magic, Marley Marl

3. Get rid of your doubts

Livin’ life without fear
Puttin’ 5 carats in my baby girl’s ears

4. Invest to gain – show gratitude and treat others as you’d like to be treated

Spread love, it’s the Brooklyn way

5. Think positively – focus more on what you want than what you don’t have

Super Nintendo, Sega Genesis
When I was dead broke, man I couldn’t picture this
Uh, damn right I like the life I live
‘Cause I went from negative to positive
And it’s all good

“And if you don’t know, now you know”. – Notorious B.I.G

The secret revealed.

Do you have a song that inspires you, or one that gets you through the day? I’d love to know. Tell me what your go-to song is by posting a comment below.

PICS: 10 quotes that should motivate the hell out of you

Stay motivated.

One of my favourite quotes is from a fable by Paulo Coelho, called The Alchemist. It reads: “Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”. And I’m sure that this rings true for something in your life like your career aspirations, your love life, or any other dreams that you wish to follow. If you absolutely love what you’re doing, you can carry on for hours and not even notice the time go by.

Think about one point in your life, when you thought, “Wow! I could do this forever!” Or “I love the way this makes me feel!” That feeling, that’s what Paulo calls “your treasure” – the reward for the work you’ve put in. And like you’ll see from one of the amazing quotes below, nothing worth having comes easily.

Sometimes, during the hustle of the day, we forget why we began our journey in the first place – we take our eyes off the prize and focus on how hard it is for us to reach our goals. Then we become consumed by our challenges, and decide that we’ve had enough so we’re giving up.

But there are some people who bite through the tough times – they’re the ones who you’d admire for their success, and sometimes look to for guidance. Anyone who can work through a challenge, is someone who is closer to finding his/her treasure.

You could be one of them. Get ready and stay ready.

Here are 10 Instagram quotes that have been posted by self-motivators who keep their eye on the prize:

Check out the profiles below for more motivational quotes by simply clicking on the user’s name.

1.

2.

3.

4.

5. This is a really important one.

6. 

7.

8. This is just so true…

9. And this one too…

10. Eric Thomas the Hip Hop Preacher said that you don’t get out of life what you want, you get out of life WHO YOU ARE. So BE the things you want. If you want great things, guess what? You need to do great things.

Special thanks to Anita Wapenaar and the folks at Cape Town International Airport, who really helped me find easy-to-use methods to managing my challenges, as well as to stay motivated.

I’d love to know which quote you liked most. You can let me know in the comment section below.

I quit carelessness because I saw her watching.

Someone is always watching.

I have a 10-year-old niece who day-in and day-out copies me. She brushes her hair the same way, she downloads music that I listen to, and she’s even asked if she could have my clothes before I die – in a nice way.

I was laying down the other day – she knows that I usually wake up early, go for a walk, and return by the time she’s  having breakfast – so she asked if she could borrow my yoga mat to work-out and then continued to question why I didn’t go for my morning walk. She notices everything. All of a sudden she’s interested in acing calisthenics floor work and eating healthy too. So I got out of bed and went for my walk wholeheartedly.

And I’ve decided, since she’s always watching, that I need to be someone that she can really learn from. I had to think about who she’ll become if she decides to follow my path and whether I could live with that, and be proud of her.
The fact is, we’re all just versions of the people we’ve spent the most time with. A lot of who we are comes from our choices, but it’s our influences that steer us to what those choices are.

Going back to my morning walk – it’s something I enjoy doing. I needed to be reminded that I’ve been doing it for my health, for myself, and I deserve it. But also because I didn’t have a good enough excuse to stay in bed all day and I didn’t want her to think that it’s okay to quit on things because you feel like it.
                              
At times when you think no one noticed (‘that’), or no one cares; I promise you someone’s watching and taking notes.

So if you can do one thing for the greater good of humanity, (without making this sound like a lame pageant speech) work on yourself – just do you. You’re going to inspire people to do the same.

4 reasons why I’m giving my books away.

Books are to me what protein is to a muscle man.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve hoped that one day I would have a personal library – a room filled with racks and racks of books extending to the ceiling.For more reason than just sniffing books because I can’t resist the smell of an old book, but I’d banked on the idea that having a personal library of all the books I’d ever read, would stand as a symbol of my appreciation of them, as well as a symbol of my intellect.

So, a few days ago, I decided that I am going to give most of my jewels away. Here’s four reasons why:

To travel light
They’re heavy, fragile and inconvenient to carry. And if you know a story like the back of your hand, you probably won’t bother picking up that book again. Give it a new owner and you’ll be thanked for it. Also, I when I die, I’d like to leave as little material things behind ( something I’ll be sharing in a later post).

To share knowledge
Everyone knows that knowledge is power, and that those who serve, rule. Don’t be afraid to share your stories with others because those people may have new books to share with you, affording you something new to learn.

To give back
We live in a me-centric time where everything is about what can be done for us and too little of what we can do for others. You’re really saving a tree when you give your old books away. Not to mention making space for new and intriguing reads.

For conversation starters
There’s nothing like finding a friend who likes the same book as you, and if you get really into it you could go on for hours discussing your favourite parts. It’s not enough to just read books, you need to bring them to life using your own words and actions; this will be a great way to make new friends and attract people with similar interests.

So tomorrow when you see me and I’m handing you a book, you’ll know the reason.

Please don’t go chucking your textbooks away or handing out things you’ve never read. That is not the point. Reflect on these four themes and join me if you’re keen or let me know what you think.
Lastly, don’t be too selective of who you give them to, someone you never thought would enjoy a certain book, may surprise you.

1 week: 1 wedding, 1 funeral, and a birthday party.

It’s been an eventful week filled with laughter and tears.

What have I learnt this week? You can’t just pass the days surviving, you need to engineer your life, work it. When you begin to feel like an extremist, you’re on the right track.

The week: exciting and draining – I lived between two extremes and you won’t believe it until you read it.

My family lost a legend, a charismatic women beyond physical beauty, and that’s depressing. But we also acknowledge that she lived a good life, and that she expressed gratitude to her deathbed. She was pretty amazing.

image

Her death brought about lots of crying, reminiscing, and wishful conversing, but not mourning.

People are usually so selfish about death; they worry about what they’ve lost and how much their lives will change, but there was none of that; just gratitude and sharing.

Then as the weekend drew near, I had to prepare for a friend’s wedding; a partner of two ambitious beings, who are so deeply inlove.

image

I don’t think I’ve seen love like theirs before; it’s quite charming and hopeful.

I went to the wedding alone and for some time during the reception, sat by myself as well, watching them. Ofcourse I didn’t think it was weird since I came out especially to see them wed, and it was beautiful.  But I left shortly after their first dance to get ready for a birthday party, and ended up listening to a man rant of how he wished that he could have a fraction of what they have, to extremity.

The story of his relationship was nothing but thorns and twigs it seemed, he even went so far as to say that he hated his life right now, feeling trapped in his relationship. It was awful. And I remember thinking, “good God, this is why I’m single”; ” I really don’t want to have to go through this”.
But then I realized that delving into the unknown can really bring you anything; maybe you find the love of your life, or the bane of your existence, it’s such a gamble. You can play it safe and risk nothing, lose nothing, and gain nothing. But that will not be living.

Then came Alexandra’s birthday party, which I have to say fit right into the mess of emotions I’d been experiencing throughout the week.

image
(Photo/Kirsten Holman)

I needed to unwind a little and it was just the perfect situation for a good drink, dance and great company. Followed by a sunday in bed, watching too many episodes of series.

What a week right?

How to get rid of doubt

I was scrolling down my Twitter feed and stumbled across a chat between Deepak Chopra and Mark Pinto. Chopra is best known for his unworldly public encouragements and uses Twitter to engage with and advise his followers.

Obviously in search of guidance, Pinto asked Chopra how he could eliminate his doubts. Chopra then simply and quite profoundly responded with: “Doubt your doubts”.

Fascinating right? Moreover, I was suddenly hit with the realization that all the regrets that I’d ever had in life, were fuelled by doubt. The worst moments in my life were brought on in me stimulating uncertainty within myself. And it’s the worst that you could ever do. You’re capable of anything you really want.

There no real advantage to doubt. You’d think that self-doubt would save you from making mistakes; that it’s just a case of being cautious and sustaining stabiliy, but that’s not true. Doubt weakens you. It stops you from trying new things that could have resulted in something amazing. Doubt causes you to question your capabilities and instigates inactivity. You shouldn’t be asking yourself if you can do it, rather focus on whethere you’re willing to do what it takes to get you want.

I felt like my world had ended when my father died. I will never suffer a greater loss. And the pain of losing a loved one can often wound you, but what’s worse are the doubts that you won’t be able to recover from it, and those doubts will paralyse you.

A famous quote from Buddha reads:

There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.

So doubting yourself would be suicide.