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12 Things that Constitute Real Riches By Napoleon Hill

I’ve begun reading a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Lately, I’ve been jumping books, where I’d be reading a book and then become so distracted that I don’t finish it; so my new plan is to write about. That way the words get entrenched in my mind, and I am able to simplify my understanding of it.

I’ve always wanted to read this book. I’ve heard people talk about how helpful the guidelines have been to them, so I’m eager to test Napoleon Hill’s theories.

Who was Napoleon Hill?

One of the world’s earliest self-help gurus. He’d researched hundreds of successful people over decades, to create these brilliant manuals for personal development. Some of Hill’s books are: The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons, Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude, The Master-Key to Riches, and You Can Work Your Own Miracles, to name a few.

Think and Grow Rich was published in 1937 (nearly 80 years ago), but the book still sells for over R100. Talk about a best-seller! You can order a paperback from Takealot.com right now for R134. Or you can continue to read the summaries as I post them here Be Whole. I’ve also downloaded a FREE Think and Grow Rich App for Android on Playstore, to listen to the audio version of the book when I feel inclined.

According to Hill’s research for this particular book, which spanned 20 years, the 12 things that make (wo)men rich were discovered in hundreds of successful people, from all walks of life, who each appeared to share the following 12 qualities:

1. Positive mental attitude

2. Sound physical health

3. Harmony in human relations

4. Freedom from fear

5. The hope of future achievement

6. The capacity for applied faith

7. Willingness to share one’s blessings with others

8. To be engaged in the labour of love

9. An open mind towards all subjects for all people

10. Complete self-discipline

11. Wisdom with which to understand people

12. Financial security

He then emphasizes that financial security was intentionally listed as the final point to obtaining riches, because money is merely a component of wealth, not the purpose of it. Are your ducks in a row people? I can think of at least five that I seriously need to work on.

More notes on this book to follow! Do you or someone you know possess each of the 12 components mentioned? I’d love to feature you! Email me directly to robyn@bewholesome.co.za or leave a comment in the space below.

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5 reasons why you may not reach your goals.

If we live in universe of infinite possibilities, why aren’t we all successful?

Why aren’t we all where we all where we want to be in life? We’re probably the most self-focused generation in creation. Here are 5 reasons why you could be stuck at dreaming and not doing:

1. You’re afraid that it will never happen for you.

I know someone who’d love to be an advertising model but she hasn’t done anything to pursue it. She’s beautiful, and while modeling has less to do with beauty and more to with confidence, her looks would certainly be an advantage. When I’d asked why she doesn’t pursue modeling, she said that it was just a dream. And how would you turn a dream into an experience if you aren’t doing anything? Most of the time, we’re afraid that we’ll be rejected so we don’t bother trying.

2. You can’t actually picture yourself at your goal.

If you’ve set a goal that you’re going to reach one day, forget it. A dream can only be realized if you work towards it and set a specific deadline. Know when, where, and how you’ll get what you want, by when. The chances of success after your first attempt is one in a million, so you can almost bet that you’ll exceed your deadline anyway, but it’s a great guideline.

3. You just don’t have the patience…

To wait, to take orders, to listen to rejection after rejection. Technology is rapidly changing society. You’ve barely torn the plastic from a new gadget, and already new model is being manufactured. A lot more can happen in five minutes, than it could 10 years ago. And we’ve become so accustomed to having things happen quickly, that we forget that our future can’t be downloaded within mere minutes. We forget that anything with having takes a lot of effort and pressure like cutting diamonds.

4. Reaching the top often means loneliness.

There is a distinct difference between being alone and being lonely. The former means being by yourself, and the latter means having only yourself. None of us want to be lonely. After all, what would the the value of your success if you didn’t have anyone to share it with? I’ve seen people aggressively beat challenges and perform at the height of their potential. And I’ve also noticed that the closer they’ve come to reaching their goals, the harder they’ve had to work and sacrifice social interactions. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with people who share similar interests as you.

When you surround yourself with like-minded people, you allow yourself to learn, teach, and be supportive, but more importantly, accompanied down the road to your goal.

5. Because what are you supposed to do afterwards…

We all have a purpose in life and our goals guide us to it. Establish a reason for your goal and then you’ll know where to, after you’ve achieved it. Reaching your dream doesn’t mean the end of your life and purpose, it simply opens up a door for your to explore new things. From one of the best fables of all time, The Alchemist, “wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”. 

Do you have a suggestion to add to the list? I’d love to hear from you. Post a comment in the space below, or email me directly to robyn@bewhole.co.za

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Why you should never give less than your best.

I was listening to Les Brown’s Shoot for Moon audio where he talks about how you owe it to yourself to do your best. Les read a short story that was so gripping; it would be an injustice not to share it with you. It’s called, The Builder:

There was a man who was an efficient builder. He’d worked at a large company for years and had reached the age of retirement, when his employer asked him to build one more house. It was to be his last commission.

The builder took the job but his heart was not involved; he used inferior materials, timber was poor, and he failed to see the many things that would have been clear to him if he had shown even his normal interest in his work.

When he’d finished the house, his employer came to him and said, “The house is yours. Here’s the key. It’s a present from me”. The builder immediately regretted not using the best materials or the most capable workers. If only he’d known that the house was for him.

Moral: Commit to giving your best effort because it may be your karma.

What a mind-blowing story don’t you think? Imagine if all the half-assed things you did was given to you as a reward. Would you even want it? If ever there was a reason to avoid doing a crappy job, this is it.

Everything you do serves as a representation of you. You owe it to yourself to portray the best version of who you are. Never mind what people think of you, never mind if you’re not really interested in doing what you’re doing right now, if you’ve committed to something, maintain it. Your output will be marked as your level of capability and consistency.

The easiest way to remind yourself to continually do your best,  is to ask yourself whether you’d sign your name to that job for all the effort you’ve put in. The work you did today, was that your best effort? The cracks of half-assed jobs begin to show sooner or later; you cannot hide what you didn’t do or lack. Let that resonate with you.

Would you like to suggest a motivational story to feature? I’d love to hear from you. Post a comment in the space below, or email me directly to robyn@bewhole.co.za

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PICS: 10 quotes that should motivate the hell out of you

Stay motivated.

One of my favourite quotes is from a fable by Paulo Coelho, called The Alchemist. It reads: “Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”. And I’m sure that this rings true for something in your life like your career aspirations, your love life, or any other dreams that you wish to follow. If you absolutely love what you’re doing, you can carry on for hours and not even notice the time go by.

Think about one point in your life, when you thought, “Wow! I could do this forever!” Or “I love the way this makes me feel!” That feeling, that’s what Paulo calls “your treasure” – the reward for the work you’ve put in. And like you’ll see from one of the amazing quotes below, nothing worth having comes easily.

Sometimes, during the hustle of the day, we forget why we began our journey in the first place – we take our eyes off the prize and focus on how hard it is for us to reach our goals. Then we become consumed by our challenges, and decide that we’ve had enough so we’re giving up.

But there are some people who bite through the tough times – they’re the ones who you’d admire for their success, and sometimes look to for guidance. Anyone who can work through a challenge, is someone who is closer to finding his/her treasure.

You could be one of them. Get ready and stay ready.

Here are 10 Instagram quotes that have been posted by self-motivators who keep their eye on the prize:

Check out the profiles below for more motivational quotes by simply clicking on the user’s name.

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5. This is a really important one.

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8. This is just so true…

9. And this one too…

10. Eric Thomas the Hip Hop Preacher said that you don’t get out of life what you want, you get out of life WHO YOU ARE. So BE the things you want. If you want great things, guess what? You need to do great things.

Special thanks to Anita Wapenaar and the folks at Cape Town International Airport, who really helped me find easy-to-use methods to managing my challenges, as well as to stay motivated.

I’d love to know which quote you liked most. You can let me know in the comment section below.

I quit carelessness because I saw her watching.

Someone is always watching.

I have a 10-year-old niece who day-in and day-out copies me. She brushes her hair the same way, she downloads music that I listen to, and she’s even asked if she could have my clothes before I die – in a nice way.

I was laying down the other day – she knows that I usually wake up early, go for a walk, and return by the time she’s  having breakfast – so she asked if she could borrow my yoga mat to work-out and then continued to question why I didn’t go for my morning walk. She notices everything. All of a sudden she’s interested in acing calisthenics floor work and eating healthy too. So I got out of bed and went for my walk wholeheartedly.

And I’ve decided, since she’s always watching, that I need to be someone that she can really learn from. I had to think about who she’ll become if she decides to follow my path and whether I could live with that, and be proud of her.
The fact is, we’re all just versions of the people we’ve spent the most time with. A lot of who we are comes from our choices, but it’s our influences that steer us to what those choices are.

Going back to my morning walk – it’s something I enjoy doing. I needed to be reminded that I’ve been doing it for my health, for myself, and I deserve it. But also because I didn’t have a good enough excuse to stay in bed all day and I didn’t want her to think that it’s okay to quit on things because you feel like it.
                              
At times when you think no one noticed (‘that’), or no one cares; I promise you someone’s watching and taking notes.

So if you can do one thing for the greater good of humanity, (without making this sound like a lame pageant speech) work on yourself – just do you. You’re going to inspire people to do the same.

E.T the Hip Hop preacher takes motivational speaking to the next level.

Maybe it’s not that you’re lazy, or careless, or procrastinate, maybe you just need a little motivation to get things going.

I was search through my contact list for friends who are generally motivated. I’d been feeling a bit low and I find that reading self-help books or articles, always lifts my spirits. Some said to download E.T the Hip Hop preacher App (for Android). And I’ve been drawn to the work of Eric Thomas ever since. I’m exercising than usual – I’ve just joined the calisthenics movement; it will be a hell of a long road but I hope that I will reach a level where I am able to compete.
Eric Thomas’ story is so inspiring. Here’s a guy who went from being homeless, to best-selling author, celebrity motivational coach, father and husband because he he was determined. He was homeless at some point and it took him 12 years to finish a four-year degree, but now here he is, earning millions of dollars.

The truth of the matter is that you can be/have anything you want. ANYTHING! Whatever you desire in your life – you can have it. You just needvto know exactly what you want and how far you are willing to go to get it.

People who aren’t sure of themselves don’t succeed. If you don’t know what you really want, you can’t exactly work towards having it.

You can download the E.T app for Android on Playstore or visit etinspires.com for motivational material. I’ve also started following E.T on Instagram, so be sure to check out his profile, here.

4 reasons why I’m giving my books away.

Books are to me what protein is to a muscle man.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve hoped that one day I would have a personal library – a room filled with racks and racks of books extending to the ceiling.For more reason than just sniffing books because I can’t resist the smell of an old book, but I’d banked on the idea that having a personal library of all the books I’d ever read, would stand as a symbol of my appreciation of them, as well as a symbol of my intellect.

So, a few days ago, I decided that I am going to give most of my jewels away. Here’s four reasons why:

To travel light
They’re heavy, fragile and inconvenient to carry. And if you know a story like the back of your hand, you probably won’t bother picking up that book again. Give it a new owner and you’ll be thanked for it. Also, I when I die, I’d like to leave as little material things behind ( something I’ll be sharing in a later post).

To share knowledge
Everyone knows that knowledge is power, and that those who serve, rule. Don’t be afraid to share your stories with others because those people may have new books to share with you, affording you something new to learn.

To give back
We live in a me-centric time where everything is about what can be done for us and too little of what we can do for others. You’re really saving a tree when you give your old books away. Not to mention making space for new and intriguing reads.

For conversation starters
There’s nothing like finding a friend who likes the same book as you, and if you get really into it you could go on for hours discussing your favourite parts. It’s not enough to just read books, you need to bring them to life using your own words and actions; this will be a great way to make new friends and attract people with similar interests.

So tomorrow when you see me and I’m handing you a book, you’ll know the reason.

Please don’t go chucking your textbooks away or handing out things you’ve never read. That is not the point. Reflect on these four themes and join me if you’re keen or let me know what you think.
Lastly, don’t be too selective of who you give them to, someone you never thought would enjoy a certain book, may surprise you.

If you think you’re out of their league, you are.

Stop comparing yourself to others.

As cliche as sounds, the truth is; there’s no one like you. But there’s certain things you do, that’ll give others an advantage over you.

You are what you think about.

Anthony Robbins once said that whatever you focus on, you will find. This is not one of those spiritual mumbo jumbo comments that might be true; it’s a fact. Newton’s first law of motion explains that a body will remain at rest, unless an external force acts upon it  – so you attract what happens in your life, even if it’s not what you want; if you’re thinking about it, you create it. You’ll always be unhappy if you have negative thoughts, and you will live positively if you think positively.

The trick is to work with the negatives, challenges, friction or whatever you’d like to call them, embrace and learn from it but don’t dwell on it. For example, quit thinking about what you don’t have and focus on what it is that you actually want, then apply force (work towards it).

The celebrity hype is not real

Celebrities are ordinary people with extraordinary goals. They’re usually admired for their persistence and excellence in their crafts and develop a following (of those who aspire for the same things) from it. Celebs feel hungry and tired, and they poo – just so you understand how they’re just like you. Except they’re on a different wave length. What sets you apart is how badly you want to work and persist to get what you want. So don’t set yourself short. You can get there if you want to.

Be decisive

No one likes to be surrounded by people who are constantly complaining and don’t seem sure of themselves. People will befriend those who exude confidence, and those who seem like they have things figured out. You don’t need to be a certain type of person to fit in or to make make friends, you just have to know what you want; those who aspire for the same things will naturally gravitate towards you.

Take control

It’s helpful to have others advise you when making a decision, but don’t let others choose make your decisions for you. you’re the one who’ll live with the consequences of your decisions after all.

You don’t need to have many friends, just a few that you can count on.

“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.”- David Mitchell

How to get rid of doubt

I was scrolling down my Twitter feed and stumbled across a chat between Deepak Chopra and Mark Pinto. Chopra is best known for his unworldly public encouragements and uses Twitter to engage with and advise his followers.

Obviously in search of guidance, Pinto asked Chopra how he could eliminate his doubts. Chopra then simply and quite profoundly responded with: “Doubt your doubts”.

Fascinating right? Moreover, I was suddenly hit with the realization that all the regrets that I’d ever had in life, were fuelled by doubt. The worst moments in my life were brought on in me stimulating uncertainty within myself. And it’s the worst that you could ever do. You’re capable of anything you really want.

There no real advantage to doubt. You’d think that self-doubt would save you from making mistakes; that it’s just a case of being cautious and sustaining stabiliy, but that’s not true. Doubt weakens you. It stops you from trying new things that could have resulted in something amazing. Doubt causes you to question your capabilities and instigates inactivity. You shouldn’t be asking yourself if you can do it, rather focus on whethere you’re willing to do what it takes to get you want.

I felt like my world had ended when my father died. I will never suffer a greater loss. And the pain of losing a loved one can often wound you, but what’s worse are the doubts that you won’t be able to recover from it, and those doubts will paralyse you.

A famous quote from Buddha reads:

There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.

So doubting yourself would be suicide.