Be Whole

Stop comparing yourself to others.

As cliche as sounds, the truth is; there’s no one like you. But there’s certain things you do, that’ll give others an advantage over you.

You are what you think about.

Anthony Robbins once said that whatever you focus on, you will find. This is not one of those spiritual mumbo jumbo comments that might be true; it’s a fact. Newton’s first law of motion explains that a body will remain at rest, unless an external force acts upon it  – so you attract what happens in your life, even if it’s not what you want; if you’re thinking about it, you create it. You’ll always be unhappy if you have negative thoughts, and you will live positively if you think positively.

The trick is to work with the negatives, challenges, friction or whatever you’d like to call them, embrace and learn from it but don’t dwell on it. For example, quit thinking about what you don’t have and focus on what it is that you actually want, then apply force (work towards it).

The celebrity hype is not real

Celebrities are ordinary people with extraordinary goals. They’re usually admired for their persistence and excellence in their crafts and develop a following (of those who aspire for the same things) from it. Celebs feel hungry and tired, and they poo – just so you understand how they’re just like you. Except they’re on a different wave length. What sets you apart is how badly you want to work and persist to get what you want. So don’t set yourself short. You can get there if you want to.

Be decisive

No one likes to be surrounded by people who are constantly complaining and don’t seem sure of themselves. People will befriend those who exude confidence, and those who seem like they have things figured out. You don’t need to be a certain type of person to fit in or to make make friends, you just have to know what you want; those who aspire for the same things will naturally gravitate towards you.

Take control

It’s helpful to have others advise you when making a decision, but don’t let others choose make your decisions for you. you’re the one who’ll live with the consequences of your decisions after all.

You don’t need to have many friends, just a few that you can count on.

“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.”- David Mitchell